One of the first terms that I was introduced to when I started in the sex industry was the term “game.” “Game” was an all-encompassing term that defined the interrelationship b/n clients & sex workers as well as a sex worker’s unique ability to do well in the industry. With respect to clients and sex workers, the term “game” referred to the negotiation process where payment and services were brokered – and each side tried to garner the best deal possible.
Sex workers wanted to make the most amount of money while doing the fewest services; while, clients wanted the most services for the least amount of money. Sex workers who were good at making a lot of money from clients, without clients feeling as though they had been ripped off, were known to possess “game.” The best sex workers I have ever known had a lot of game.
Before I go on, it is important to note that the sex industry has moved away from this notion of clients and sex workers “gaming” one another. Thankfully, the sex industry has become more of a win/win scenario. The only reason that I bring up the term “game” at all is to stress that sex work has, and always will be, first and foremost motivated by money for the vast majority of sex workers.
It should also be stressed that, thankfully, there are other perks to sex work: client friendships, more free time, and professional skills learned on the job. These additional perks are why sex workers stay in the industry for so long. It’s fun!
That being said, there is a recent and, in my opinion, troublesome social media trend to find offense with sex workers who strive to make a lot of money by working at a higher price point. As a colleague, @bbwbrynnchicago, recently tweeted, “this is the only industry that treating it like a business while focusing on one’s personal growth and access to a more comfortable and luxurious lifestyle is frowned upon among other workers.” Yes…exactly!!!
I must admit that I find this trend peculiar as a sex worker’s raison d’être is to make money. There should be no shame in wanting to do well. Honest fiscal success should never be looked down upon.
Remember: a sex worker who is doing well today demonstrates that it is possible for others to do the same. This should always be celebrated. We do not need to take offense when sex workers do well in the industry. If they can do it, then so can many others. It is just a matter of time.
To me, sex work is about self-improvement. I began in the brothel world making peanuts; now, I charge a lot more. Over time, it is possible for many sex workers to achieve social and fiscal mobility.
Instead of taking exception to sex workers who have the goal to be fiscally and professionally successful, I think a better goal for the industry would be to try to bring everybody up.
I have always believed in scenarios that are win/win : )